I was twenty-two when anxiety first hit me. It felt like the world had come crashing down, and there was nothing left worth living for. I was standing in the corridor of the company I was interning with, trying hard to hide my face—I obviously didn’t want to come across as someone “weak.” A friend of mine, who was standing right beside me, kept asking what had caused the emotional breakdown. I simply told her I was going through some “personal issues.”
It took me over a week to recover from that bout of anxiety, and I’d be lying if I said I was strong enough to overcome it on my own. I’m just like anyone else—I managed to pull through with a little help and a lot of support from my family.
Today, at twenty-six, the only thing I regret is thinking back then that I was “weak” for having an anxiety attack. Anxiety, of course, is tough, but it doesn’t define who I am. In fact, it taught me the importance of speaking openly about my emotions with the people around me, which has made me much happier. I talk about it more now because I know it helps others realize that anxiety doesn’t define them either—and that happiness is still within reach.
Anxiety can affect even the happiest of us. And if there’s one thing that truly helps you get through it, it’s the acceptance and acknowledgment of what’s going on inside you. Understand that expressing your emotions is a sign of strength—not weakness. You don’t have to suffer in silence just to appear strong on the outside. Anxiety is real, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
While you can’t always control anxiety, here are a few things you can do to help yourself feel more relaxed when it peaks:
1. Talk About It:
You don’t have to go through anxiety alone—especially when you have access to social support. Talk to people you feel comfortable around and open up about your anxiety. Share what’s been troubling you. Even if it doesn’t instantly make everything better, just being heard can bring a real sense of relief.
2. Surround Yourself with Loved Ones:
Anxiety can fill your mind with worries that aren’t even real. When it hits hard, turn to those you love—and who love you back. Sometimes, simply knowing that you’re not alone in your struggle can work wonders for your mental health. Besides offering emotional support, your loved ones can also help you seek professional help if they believe you need it.
3. Try Nature’s Therapy:
Spending time in nature is a simple yet powerful way to ease anxiety. Breathing fresh air, feeling the sun on your skin, or just walking among trees can help calm your mind. Even with a packed schedule, try to carve out small moments to step outside—whether it’s a morning walk, a stroll with your pet, or simply sitting on a park bench to gather your thoughts.
4. Make Journaling a Habit:
Journaling is one of the most effective tools therapists recommend for anxiety relief. Keep a journal where you write down your anxious thoughts, feelings, and everything that’s been weighing you down. Think of it as a friend that’s always there to listen, without judgment. Putting things into words can often lighten the emotional load.
5. Reconnect with Your Hobbies:
Anxiety can rob you of interest in the things you love. It takes effort, but try not to let go of your hobbies when anxiety sets in. Whether it’s dancing, painting, gardening, or stitching—your hobbies can bring joy, distraction, and a sense of purpose when you need it most.
6. Seek Counseling:
Don’t hesitate to seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed. Natural remedies can be helpful, but they don’t work for everyone or every situation. A counselor or therapist can provide the tools and support you need to manage anxiety more effectively.
7. Practice Yoga or Meditation:
During an anxiety attack, your mind can feel like it’s spinning out of control. Practicing yoga, meditation, or any form of physical exercise can help bring it back to calm. If you can, make yoga or meditation a regular part of your routine to help keep your mind centered and at peace.
8. Eat Well:
Skipping meals or losing interest in food is common during anxiety episodes, but it’s essential to nourish your body. Eating well and on time can stabilize your energy levels and support a calmer mind. An empty stomach won’t help you feel better—so choose foods that nourish and energize you, especially during difficult times.
9. Prioritize Self-Care:
Don’t get so caught up in daily responsibilities that you forget to prioritize your mental health. Practicing self-care is just as important as work, chores, or taking care of others. Ask yourself what your mind and body need to feel balanced and happy.
Have you been hustling too hard lately? Maybe it’s time to pause, breathe, and simply relax. Read a book, exercise, listen to music—whatever lifts your spirit.
Anxiety can often leave you feeling under-confident and disconnected from everything happening around you.
In those moments, it’s crucial to remind yourself that you are more than your anxiety. That said, it’s equally important to recognize when you’ve reached your limit and need professional help.
You don’t have to suffer in silence, hoping things will magically get better with time. Pay close attention to what’s going on inside your mind, and treat your mental health with the same urgency and care you would give to a physical health issue.
Reach out. Always.